Fighting against the worlds view of dating

I was listening to a fellow worker today talking with another girl. He was talking about this guy friend he knew who's mission has been to go out with all different girls with different last names so he could make a list from A - Z. the girl he was talking to replied, "he must have to really lower his standards sometimes" the guy replied, "ya probably but he said if he was dating say a C and he saw one that was way better he would just switch."
I stood there shaking me head in disbelief and disgust, "Are You Serious!!!"

As a response to this I decided to post some notes of a presentation I heard during one of our Young Peoples speaker evenings. It was given to us by Dr. D Murray and he titles it 10 Rules of Dating

1. Thou shalt not make marriage a god
- there is nothing wrong with wanting to be married
- but don't make it the most important and only thing
- this concept of marriage could cause for disaster as you may become impatient
- be content --> marriage is a gift from God
- your 1st love should be God and He deserves our utmost glory

2. Thou shalt not tour churches to find someone
- this means spending a little time in different churches looking for someone who sparks an interest
- you are more likely to start going to church for the wrong motivations and chances are God will not bless this

3.Thou shalt not start or major with the physical
- men --> don't base relationships on appearance
- woman --> don't encourage this behaviour with the way you dress
- remember what God values (are you following God or the world)

4. Thou shalt not go on vacation together before marriage
- your honeymoon should be special, why spoil it
- also this type of action leads to great temptation

5. Thou shalt not experiment
- don’t participate in "fish dating"
- someone will always get hurt (most likely the girl)
- trust most likely will be broken

6. Thou shalt take counsel from others
- parents, pastors, godly friends
- we should not go solo at such a young age

7. Thou shalt talk about expectations
- don't just talk about the wedding day, but move on to day 2
- find out what your opinions are:
· how woman should honour her husband
· the wife as housekeeper?
· how much should be we tithe
· what church should we attend
· how large of a family do you want

8. Thou shalt be patient/commit
- work through arguments and problems with ease, not through silent treatment or taking off
- don't leave a person hanging. be willing to commit to something

9. Thou shalt say sorry
- this word keeps many marriages together
- avoid if perhaps ... and maybe ....
- say sorry even if the blame is divided
- be sure to prove that you are sorry

10. Thou shalt love
- what needs does the other person have and how can i meet them
- it is not about what you receive but about what you can give
- this is the reason why there is a lack of true love in today's world
- in the end you will receive more than you ever gave